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It’s great to have goals. Having vision moves you forward and gives you purpose, however far too often a list of goals may leave you dissatisfied with where you are and in a mindset where you will only be happy ‘when’ you achieve your goals.

  • When I lose 3 kgs, then I will be happy…
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Over the past three years I haven’t set myself ‘goals’

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Being a coach you may think that is odd? I suppose it is and yet I have experienced the most incredible three years of my life, things didn’t stop coming to me, in fact the most amazing opportunities have landed in my lap and yet I didn’t push for them, strive or keep my eye eagerly waiting their arrival before I enjoyed my life.

During my 20’s all I did was create longs lists of goals that I never actually achieved. Why? Because they were not matched to my core values or purpose.

In hindsight I recognised that my day-to-day lifestyle failed to reflect who I was and therefore my goals were a form of escapism, a fantasy in my mind that would momentarily take me away from the unhappiness I felt in the present.

I thought if I studied this, achieved that income or moved to another state then everything would change for the better. I had the Aston Martin, beach house mansion and million dollar a year income on my vision board because when I got these things THEN I would be happy and all my problems would go away.

Thankfully that paradigm burst 5 years ago when I recognised the real reasons why I set those goals. I wasn’t happy where I was and I thought ‘getting’ these things would miraculously whisk me into some divine life where I would be blissfully happy.

Then I came back to reality. I cleared my emotional baggage and self-worth issues (yep, I had many!) and now I find I no longer set materialistic goals that are unrealistic and disconnected from who I am. In fact the only material ‘goal’ I have now is to buy a house. It’s a strategy, I have a plan and I know I will achieve it.

The truth is I don’t need a lot to make me happy. I live a beautiful life and I am incredibly fulfilled, overflowing with gratitude and living on purpose every day. I have created a lifestyle that is perfectly matched to who I am.

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My advice for you is simplify and do less to receive more.

More abundance.

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More inner peace.

This comes from living your ideal lifestyle first. It takes a little inner hustle to find out who you are and what you really want. Only then from this solid foundation do I recommend setting goals.

On Lorna Jane’s Move Nourish Believe I share a two-part series on making New Years Resolutions. For me it was no longer about striving to achieve goals that would take me away from the pain I was feeling.

Instead I identified what was most important to me, how I wanted to feel in each moment and then I created positive daily activities that were aligned with these two areas. I started small and I built on them; naturally old habits disappeared, undesirable behaviours ceased and I found myself living a life I really, really loved! I slowly set a solid foundation of who I was and let go of all I wasn’t.

My lifestyle has transformed. I have changed. I have become more of ‘me’ and less of what everyone else wants and expects.

The result is that I know on every level of my being who I am, what lights me up, what is most important to me and therefore how to spend my time and energy to create a deeply fulfilling life.

Now I am ready to set those hairy, audacious goals and I believe I will achieve them without too much resistance (except of course fear which naturally shows up when I push outside my comfort zone), without procrastination and without reflecting back on New Years Eve 2014 to a list of unrealised New Year Resolutions that I either failed to achieve or wasn’t passionate about in the first place!

Is this easy? No. You will have to fight with your inner mean girl, lean into the resistance (again and again) and fail pick yourself up and no doubt fail again. You will most probably go against the mindset of some of your friends too….and that is OK.

The most important piece of insight I can give you is to always be true to yourself because then one day you will wake up and notice you have created an incredibly satisfying lifestyle, perfectly suited to who you truly are.

With love,

DS xx

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What to do before setting New Year resolutions | Part 1

What to do before setting New Year resolutions | Part 2


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